Common topics to avoid in Chinese casual conversations
In Chinese casual conversations, commonly avoided topics include all politically sensitive issues such as Taiwan, Tibet, Hong Kong, the Tiananmen Square incident, and criticism of the Communist Party or leaders. Discussions involving human rights, religion, personal finances, and drug use are also taboo. Additionally, topics that cause “loss of face” like public criticism or direct confrontation should be avoided. Other cultural sensitivities include avoiding excessive displays of wealth, discussing death lightly, or making jokes about deeply serious matters. Safe conversation topics generally include family, food, work, hobbies, and festivals.
Specific Topics to Avoid:
- Political issues: Taiwan independence, Tibet, Hong Kong protests, Tiananmen Square, criticism of CCP or Chinese leaders
- Human rights concerns and Xinjiang
- Drug use discussions
- Religion and spiritual beliefs
- Personal finances, salary in casual settings
- Anything causing “loss of face” like public embarrassment or criticism
- Sensitive cultural taboos related to gifts and behavior (e.g., clocks symbolizing death, sharp objects like knives)
- Death and funerals
- Excessive display of wealth or boasting
Social and Cultural Norms:
- Avoid direct confrontation; be indirect and polite in giving feedback
- Public discussions of sensitive matters are discouraged; private conversations are more acceptable if approached with tact
- Physical contact such as touching heads or excessive public displays of affection may be frowned upon
- Asking about personal details like marital status or job is common and acceptable small talk
- Food and family are always safe and welcome topics
This guidance helps ensure respectful and harmonious interactions in Chinese casual conversations, reflecting deep cultural values on face, respect, and social harmony. 1, 2, 3, 5, 8