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Proper greeting customs including la bise and handshakes

Navigating French Etiquette: A Must-Read for Learners: Proper greeting customs including la bise and handshakes
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Proper greeting customs in France include both “la bise” (cheek kisses) and handshakes, each used in different social contexts.

La Bise (Cheek Kisses)

  • La bise is a traditional French greeting involving light kisses on the cheeks, usually air kisses with a kissing sound rather than actual lip contact.
  • The number of kisses varies by region, commonly two (one on each cheek), but sometimes three or four. The side to start with may be the right cheek in many places or the left in some regions like Corsica.
  • La bise is typically reserved for people who know each other well (those who use “tu” form), such as close friends and family, or those introduced through mutual acquaintances.
  • Children often practice la bise with family members. At social gatherings, la bise can become an extended ritual.
  • When unsure, it is recommended to follow the other person’s lead to avoid awkwardness.
  • La bise conveys warmth, affection, and respect in social settings, but in professional contexts, it may be less common. 1, 2, 3, 4

Handshakes

  • Handshakes are the standard formal greeting in France, especially in business or professional environments.
  • The handshake involves grasping the other person’s hand briefly, usually accompanied by one or two up-and-down motions with a loose grip.
  • Handshakes are used when meeting someone for the first time in a formal context, such as business meetings, interviews, or when addressing strangers formally (those on “vous” terms).
  • Women may be less likely to shake hands in some contexts, but it is generally acceptable.
  • The handshake historically symbolizes peace and mutual commitment and is a widely recognized professional greeting worldwide. 5, 6, 7, 8

Summary

La bise is a culturally affectionate greeting primarily used among friends, family, and acquaintances in informal social contexts, while handshakes serve as the standard formal greeting, especially in professional settings. When in France, observing the social context and following the local lead helps navigate between these greeting customs effectively. 4, 8, 1, 5

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